Meet Mystique, the creator of "The Black Wives Club" FB Group
Growing up, I wasn't your typical bookworm. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely lived with my nose stuck in a book, but that was only one side of me. I was also a gymnast and a cheerleader, until that one fateful summer when I seemingly developed overnight. When my milkshake started bringing all the boys to the yard, I decided to sit my butt down and let go of any aspirations of pursuing gymnastics.
My love of reading somehow translated into a love for writing. It was in the well-loved pages of my journals that I shared my dreams, my first love and my heartbreaks. It's interesting how journaling created a space for me to connect with other women in adulthood. I had become so accustomed to sharing my thoughts through writing and within the comforting confines of long-term friendships, that I didn't realize how important it was to commune with women outside of my inner circle.
As I navigated the perils of the dating scene, I translated my experiences into poetry. If a guy became the inspiration of a poem, trust and believe that meant the writing was on the wall - literally. I knew that I wasn't the only woman out here with colorful dating stories about dead-end relationships. In early 2000 I published "Dump Him", a short collection of worst-case dating scenarios. It was my way of reminding myself that I deserved better and to let go of the relationships that didn't align with my desire for marriage.
I honestly believe that I journaled myself to my husband, but that's an entire story that I will share another day. For now, I will say that even after getting married my journaling hasn't ceased. In fact, it has actually increased. In the midst of a very challenging season for us, I created a line of journals. It was during this time that I really started to reach out more and began to openly stand under the glare of my spotlight. Although I am innately private and I didn't know if we were going to make it through; I later realized that if there was a testimony waiting for me on the other side of this test, then maybe it would somehow become even stronger if others bore witness to the pain that I was in during those moments.
With experience, hopefully comes wisdom.
In this current season of restoration, I became even more focused on manifesting more of what I desire and the idea for this community began to form. I desired to create a group for introverts and extroverts alike, united by the common goal of being marriage-minded women. A place where we can trade war stories, love stories and everything in between and take what we need from each other's experiences to continue to refuel our hope and faith tank.
I'm looking forward to learning from you and being inspired by you. I pray that what is shared through this group impacts you in the same way.
My love of reading somehow translated into a love for writing. It was in the well-loved pages of my journals that I shared my dreams, my first love and my heartbreaks. It's interesting how journaling created a space for me to connect with other women in adulthood. I had become so accustomed to sharing my thoughts through writing and within the comforting confines of long-term friendships, that I didn't realize how important it was to commune with women outside of my inner circle.
As I navigated the perils of the dating scene, I translated my experiences into poetry. If a guy became the inspiration of a poem, trust and believe that meant the writing was on the wall - literally. I knew that I wasn't the only woman out here with colorful dating stories about dead-end relationships. In early 2000 I published "Dump Him", a short collection of worst-case dating scenarios. It was my way of reminding myself that I deserved better and to let go of the relationships that didn't align with my desire for marriage.
I honestly believe that I journaled myself to my husband, but that's an entire story that I will share another day. For now, I will say that even after getting married my journaling hasn't ceased. In fact, it has actually increased. In the midst of a very challenging season for us, I created a line of journals. It was during this time that I really started to reach out more and began to openly stand under the glare of my spotlight. Although I am innately private and I didn't know if we were going to make it through; I later realized that if there was a testimony waiting for me on the other side of this test, then maybe it would somehow become even stronger if others bore witness to the pain that I was in during those moments.
With experience, hopefully comes wisdom.
In this current season of restoration, I became even more focused on manifesting more of what I desire and the idea for this community began to form. I desired to create a group for introverts and extroverts alike, united by the common goal of being marriage-minded women. A place where we can trade war stories, love stories and everything in between and take what we need from each other's experiences to continue to refuel our hope and faith tank.
I'm looking forward to learning from you and being inspired by you. I pray that what is shared through this group impacts you in the same way.
Mystique